Many NOLBA members find it very difficult to continue their normal sexual relationship once they have children. In that spirit, we offer some ideas to keep your sex life alive after children, borrowed from WebMD.
1. Redefine Sex. Sex starts with other things. In the morning, a slow kiss or caress can get things going so that at night the NOLBA patented "bow chicka bow wow" can commence. You start reconnecting in this new way, and then the other ways aren't such a leap.
2. Reconnect with each other. Don't talk about the kids all the time no matter how tempting it might be. Talk about whatever it is you used to talk about together. Keep those conversations alive. For example, Therese and I like to talk about you all. Since I don't have as much time to blog, she helps me stay updated on what everyone is doing. (You can run, but you can't hide.)
3. Get creative. Babysitters can take kids on l-o-n-g walks around the block. In general a couple would do well to revisit adolescence: Get in the car, park somewhere. Or run off into the woods for an hour.
As you might remember, that worked for Therese and I once before.
4. Be spontaneous. Rediscover the living room. And the kitchen. And the counter. And the floor. OHHHHH baby... the table.
5. Be realistic. You may not get it right now. Or tomorrow. Or the next day. But you will get it. And if you spend some time prepping, and not pushing, it will be good.
Monday, September 1, 2008
NOLBA Week, Day 2
Posted by Recovering Soul at 9:29 PM
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4 comments:
great advice, all of it; especially, get creative, and being spontaneous.
I can remember many, many times, when the moment was right, but the only place available was a bathroom with a locking door- so go for it!
Hmmm. . . Gossip-as-aphrodisiac. . . That's a new one to me. . .
As re living-room/kitchen/counter/table. . . those opportunities become less frequent as your kids get older.
But Creativity - ah, yess. . . creativity can cover a multitude of 'obstacles'. . .
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, moving into a house with a bar counter has been nothing short of magical.
Also, a couple of times, it has allowed me to read the newspaper and enjoy my breakfast of peanut butter toast while partaking of the sex at the same time. I shall never live in another house without one!
#5 is my favorite. Probably because it applies whether a couple has children or not.
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