Welcome Newcomers

My wife is about to post my blog site and finally refer to me as her husband. Since she has a few more regular readers than I do at this point, this will be the first time several of you have been to this site. More ever, it will be the first time that many of you who have been to both sites realize that we are a married couple, though I know at least one of you figured it out. Needless to say my treatment of my wife was absolutely unconscionable. I know that. Some of you are or will be mad at me and what I did. I know that too. However, I think she will be the first to tell you that our lives and marriage are better now than they had been in a very long time. Restoring the Covenant hasn't been in existence for long, and several of the postings are not about the affair. Please go back and read what I have written so far, (at least the first posting) and you will see that my goal is to overcome the sin that has ruined our lives. I am not happy about or proud of what I did. I am not one who finds joy in these things. I am a sinner, and I am trying to repent. We are trying to work through all of this. That is (part of) the point of the blogs. These aren't the first blog sites we have had, but we never made the other ones public. They were just for us. We started them shortly after revelation and have updated them off and on until recently. We finally decided we were ready to talk about the affair in the hope that maybe we can help others, which is our other aim with these blogs. You see, as we searched through the blogger realm, we found so many people who are having affairs, had affairs, or want to have affairs. We hope and pray that our story will help others. If you had an affair, our message to you is that marriage is worth saving, and that it can be saved if both parties will fight for it. If you are having an affair (be it physical or emotional) please stop. You aren't going to do anything but hurt the parties involved. If you won't let go of the other person, you can't truly work on your marriage. The two simply won't work together. Try to save your marriage BEFORE you get involved with someone else. For those people contemplating having an affair - it isn't worth it. Plain and simple. So, my hope is to help others, but also to receive help. I am a man and am subject to human failings. I need support and assistance. I need help. I admit it. Part of my sin was that I thought I was strong enough to do it on my own - but I am weak. I am trying to become the head of the household once again as I am called to be. Lastly, if somehow you got to my site without seeing my wife's, she is at: Therese in Heaven