Things that have helped us move forward

There are numerous things we have done since revelation to try to heal. As soon as revelation hit, I cancelled my cell phone. It was a problem to have it, and as my wife mentioned reviewing the cell phone bills was a source of consternation for us (is that the right use of the word?) Just last week we finally signed me up for a cell phone again, but this time it is only for work and family, no one else will be given the number. In addition, she and I will review the bill in detail (at least for now) so that nothing is hidden. We started blogging. We still have blogs we have not released to the public which we use to communicate and work through things. They are a journal of our journey to this point. I immediately called and found a counselor. We had our first counseling session within a month of revelation. The good news about this is that she has already moved us to once a month sessions because she feels we are doing well. Her saying that felt like when I used to get gold stars on my homework as a child. We went to a Retrouvaille weekend. They do a lot of work to help couples communicate. We already communicate well, so didn't learn that piece of it, but we spent a lot of time that weekend talking about how things made us feel and really re-connected that weekend. Lastly, we started seeing a priest for spiritual guidance. He has helped us to focus on that side of things and shows us that the Church demands we stay together. It has never been an option for us to break up, partially because of this guidance.