Closure

You can read my wife's post here about forgiveness and last night. I also wanted to add my two cents about our counseling session yesterday. When Therese looked up at me and told me she forgave me, I could see that she truly meant it. It was a moving moment - one of those times in life where everything moves a little slower and it is so wonderful to be alive. (Of course, I had to spoil it by making a joke a moment later, like an idiot, but I was truly moved by both her words and the passion in her eyes.) The whole evening brought a sense of closure to that part of our lives. The counselor not only thought that we didn't need further counseling (we struggled to find things to talk about all evening) but also thought that perhaps we would be able to help others. This is something we want and feel called to do. It will help others and will continue to help us by sharing our story, just as we are doing now online. It truly felt like we have moved this to our past and are moving forward. Something Therese did not bring up is that she also told me last night that she trusts me again. This meant as much to me as the forgiveness, because we all know what marriage without trust looks like. And she has demonstrated this trust by agreeing that I should take an extra class next semester, getting me a new cell phone, not being upset when I am a little late from work, etc. I appreciate all of this, and more... So we are basically on cloud 9 right now as we continue to move forward.